Remember the experiment I invited you to do in the last article ( ADHD Brainwashing First, Transformation Follows ) about changing your point of view before you get the results you’d like to see. If you recall, the lesson is that belief in the possibility always comes before the results you are seeking. If you don’t believe something is possible, you won’t make it happen. Instead, as soon as things start looking as though they aren’t going your way, you give up, usually accompanied by an, “Ahah! I knew it wouldn’t work!”
If you’re looking for proof, waiting to see the results before you believe they are possible, you already have your belief… you believe it’s not possible.
Often times, you consider doing something to improve your life, saying:
“I’d like to buy that book….”
“I’d like to take that course…”
“I’d like to hire that person…”
The sentence continues: “…but… “followed by “…I can’t afford it” or “…I don’t have time”.
Actually, in your head (or hidden in your heart of hearts) is the real rest of the sentence… It is, “…because it won’t work for me anyway.”
If there was no question that the:
Book would reveal the secret to achieve your dreams…
Course would teach you exactly what you need to know to win your dream job…
Interviewee sitting across from you was exactly the right person to help take your company to the next level…
You’d do it in a heartbeat, budget and agenda be damned!
But you have proof that it won’t work, because nothing else you’ve started (with that same attitude) has worked. But imagine if the results depend on the attitude and not the other way around! What becomes possible? If instead, you believed it would work, you’d find the time, the money or whatever resource you need. You’d make it happen.
How You Can Use This?`
- Write a statement describing what you’d like to do, followed by “but,” and then followed by the obstacle you perceive.
- Consider what your real belief is about yourself. Is there any other underlying belief that could be stopping you? .
- Now consider, if you didn’t believe this, what could you make happen? .
- If you like what you imagine, change your belief. (Yes, it’s that easy.) .
Related posts:
ADHD Brainwashing First, Transformation Follows
Sing Your Heart Out
Who Are You Not To Be Great?
Linda,
This is an incredible article.
Of course, it is obvious and of course it is so…. “but”…!
And all too often the “buts” override.
Thank you for putting it so clearly: 1. easier for me to now understand and 2. easier now for me to explain.